Explain to her that she can get a different cack that will do all the things his will do only it'll be nicer about it!!!How do I convince my teenage daughter that she needs to breakup with her controlling and manipulative boyfrien
i went through this also when my daughter was this age! i talked to her until i was blue in the face and it was like talking to a brick wall! i could not stand her boyfriend and the more i tried to convince her he wasnt the one for her the more she just rebelled! i finally just had to step back and let her figure it out on her own! and she did! be there mom and just let her figure it out otherwise she will just resent you more and then blame you for everything that goes wrong! hang in there and im sure she will see the light of things! i would strongly suggest getting her on birth control though if you havent already! the best to ya!
Instead of trying to convince your daughter that her boyfriend is bad, which he may be, the better thing to do would be to start a series of conversations with her about what kind of person she wants to be and what kind of person she thinks makes a good boyfriend. Maybe you guys could watch a romantic comedy together to get the conversation going naturally. As she starts to define a good relationship while talking to you maybe she'll see the light.
What the other people may have missed is you saying the words controlling and manipulative. If your assessment of this boy is accurate, there could be real trouble ahead. Watch your daughter closely for signs that she is no longer seeing any of her friends, or if the boy is trying to isolate her even from you and the rest of her family. Abusers begin as controllers.
I had that problem when I was a teenager. What helped me was going on a family vacation. We visited my aunt for a few days and while I was there, I was able to see things in a new perspective. My self esteem improved by being around people that really loved me and thought well of me.
Things like this are difficult. how old is she?
I would let her go because unfortunately your trying to get her to dump him will only lead to resentment...
I would say just keep a close eye on her and make sure shes not getting harmed in anyway...
She needs to learn things for herself, as hard as it may be
Difficult.
You have clearly made your mind up. The harder you push her, the harder she will flee into his willing arms.
Three things you can try:
- Give her freedom to make up her own mind. That does not mean you can't influence her. Just don't think you can 'make her'.
- Search google for 'signs you are dating a loser'. Print it out and make her read it. Not your opinion! Just an internet article.
- Let her be, don't push her towards her boyfriend. But don't fail to remark on things that OTHER relationships have that her boyfriend does not offer. Point them out. Just open her eyes; let HER make the decision.
You have to let her find out on her own. She has to make her own lifes decisions. If you try to break them up she will just rebel against you.
The more you tell her to break up with him the more likely she is to stay just to prove you wrong. You're just going to have to stand back, let her make her own mistakes, and then be there waiting when it falls apart. Good luck.
You should ask your daughter not to meet her friend. It must be made clear to her that he b/f is not sincere with your daughter. Her brain needs washing so that she could see things in true perspectives and avoid meeting with the b/f.
You could let her find out for herself....Or you could try to sit her down explain what you feel and what you see and see what happens
If you try and convince her it will likely only make her stay with him longer. If she is as intelligent as you say she will figure this out on her own and break up with him. Most kids have at least one BF/GF that their parents don't like at some point in time.
You could let her find out on her own. And also let her know that you wouldn't mind her having a boyfriend but not him. Explain it to her in an understanding way and not in a forceful way. If she really doesn't heed your advice, then you'll have to let her learn it herself. It may be painful watching your daughter get hurt. But if that's the only way she can learn then you should let it happen. Just make sure she doesn't do anything stupid with this guy, for eg. sex.
You THINK he doesnt care about her! WTF do you know ?!?
let her get on with it.
whats the question honey looks like you got it all figgured out
you can't she has too figure it out herself jus be there for heer if it all turns to **** at the end
Well you lived your life all I can say is everyone makes mistakes.The more you tell her not to the more she'll do it just to prove you wrong.Let her live her life and make her own mistakes.Just be there when she needs you :) Good luck
You can not, the more you interfere the more she will be drawn to him. Sometimes guys like these leave on their own if brought into alot of family get togethers. In other words make sure any time a large group of your family gets together invite him, it tends to spook these guys away somehow. Perhaps other male family members will notice and mention things to him that will scare him off. But until your daughter decides for herself there is no way she will break up with him.
Dont interfere just be ready to be there for your daughter if it does turn out nasty!! It may not and you are pobably just being a protective mummy!
I believe the more you are you fight against him, the more you will distance your daughter from you...If you tell her negative things about him.. she is going to side with him against you then you will lose her completely...I would take a step back however hard that may be for you as her mother but you call her smart and intelligent.. so am sure she will prevent an unwanted pregancy... and that is something a lot of mothers have to worry about.. if you daughter is sensible she will use birth control... and the less you say and the less you talk against him.. chances are... that the whole affair will come to an end...if they stay together it's more out of rebellion because they know how much you are set against it... Just be neutral and open-minded for the present and believe in your daughter and in her intelligence .. she may be innocent.. but if he is manipulative she will see through him eventually and move on...if this guy does not care about her.. this will not last anyhow.. .. Some teenagers may think they found love and there is no loving without heartache but even if she finds out his true character... she will get over it and she will move on with her life and eventually she will find someone who is worthy of her but some experiences whoever it is for a mother.. you have to let your children make on their own.. even if they get emotionally hurt.. and if that happens all you can do is be there for your daughter and show her you love her...she may need you then...
Good luck.x
Listen, you must be knew at this, but you'll learn... You cannot control who your daughter dates. Sorry. You see, hopefully she knows him better than you so hopefully your wrong. If not, she'll learn not to stand for it. You have to hope you taught her well enough to know that she deserves better.
Sorry to say, but all the answerers are right. Teens are rebels by nature. No amount of reasoning is going to work, she will not see reason now.
Just be there for her. If the bf is manipulative and controlling, sooner or later she will see it herself.
Don't worry, she will come back to u, hopefully the emotional damage will not be too much.
will pray for u.
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