My mom said it is b/c teenage guys laugh it off but teenage girls will fear and obey. I am 16 and still get spanked but my younger brother is 14 and doesn't get spanked. I just think it is unfair sometimes.Why is it okay for parents to spank teenage girls but not teenage guys?
As form follows function, the nubile female form is clearly designed to be spanked. You're lucky to be receiving such a traditional ';hands-on'; education: bare hands, paddles, straps, canes have always been reliable means of teaching girls all manner of feminine refinement. Of course, your strict upbringing will also prepare you for marriage to a good man, i.e., a disciplinarian who will continue to guide you properly. Thus nature is benevolent rather than unfair to you, young lady.Why is it okay for parents to spank teenage girls but not teenage guys?
Your mom is not operating with a full deck, and while I advocate spanking, I do not think its appropriate to continue spanking your child past the age of 12. Spanks are supposed to be used as a teaching method, and by 12 the children should already know how to act and be mature enough to understand a different sort of punishment. Spanking a 16 year old girl is a disgusting invasion of her privacy!
Spanking remains an effective punishment into the teenage years.
Unfortunately, the spanking has to become abusive to remain effective for most teenage boys. Unless they intend to bruise or injure your brother, it is best that they not spank him.
I have returned to spanking my 15 year old daughter because that is what works with her; we attempted every other form of punishment without success for 2 years. On the other hand, her older sister stopped getting spanked when she 12 or 13. Her 11 year old sister is still spanked sometimes but we are more likely to use time out or take away her ipod with her.
I am sure your parents will switch to something else with you when spankings cease to be effective.
Well, your mom saying something doesn't speak for everyone else. I don't think it's okay to spank any teenager. Spanking isn't an appropriate punishment for someone in the teen age range; it's more for little kids. A teenager is more responsive to having things taken away, being grounded for long periods of time with no giving in. And maybe even the best thing, sitting down and discussing it with them so they can figure out for themselves what they did wrong and how not to do it again.
IF your dad would tell you,
I mean, sounds like your brother has pulled a ';fast one'; on his mom.
For sure, guys of 14 or 16 sure feel VERY uncomfortable when the hairbrush or belt is whacking away on their backside. It sure ain't ';fun';. And the backside will feel somewhat sore for a while afterwards ... maybe even a bit sore yet the next morning if the hairbrush had been whacking on the bare ';sit spots';.
%26gt;Why is it okay for parents to spank teenage girls
%26gt;but not teenage guys?
Well, I sure would prefer it that way, as long as they don't figure out some worse way to punish us guys.
Maybe the difference is that usually the guys ';get it'; and ';get over it'; more quickly than girls. The guys may SEEM to ';laugh it off';, but we sure ain't laughing while being whacked. I guess girls may more pout and ';carry on'; after a spanking rather than ';getting over it'; and ';getting on with life';.
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And maybe YOUR younger brother gets punished in ways OTHER THAN being spanked. Like, loss of privileges or even loss of all privileges (grounding), etc. Or maybe your younger brother is better behaved and doesn't need to be punished.
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I too am a girl that was spanked well into my teenage years, while my brothers got other punishments, like extra chores, no car use, and grounding. My parents felt that girls remembered spankings longer and corrected their behavior faster because they hated the humiliation and pain. While boys were not so effected by spanking, so taking away privileges worked better on them.
We are all happy, responsible adults in our 20's now so my parents must have been right!
Spanking never solves anything. Parents don't get obeyed nor respected by spanking. It only makes the children fear them that would make a wall between the parents and the children. Then the children would avoid talking or communicating to the parents. Or in worse cases the child will grow to be rebellious and problematic.
I can't imagine spanking teenage boys or girls. I didn't spank my kids at all, but if I had it surely would have stopped well before the teen years. By the way, for those who condone spanking - my kids never screamed or threw tantrums in public, and, were able to sit at a restaurant, without running wild, from a very young age. Parents who spank are the ones who have lost control. They also have kids who hit.
I don't think it is fair. When I was 12 years old, and my Mom tried to spank me, I turned around and spanked her at the same time she was spanking me. After that, she started grounding me, but I just climbed out my window.
She will spank you as long as you let her. Volunteer to ground yourself if she forgoes spanking you. 16 is WAY too old to be spanked, especially if it is by your father. if that happened you should go to the police.
Maybe your mom is afraid your brother would enjoy it lol
Anyway, you have to ask yourself this. Do you really want other punishments? At 16, would you prefer grounding, loss of the car, or the phone?
I would prefer the spanking. At least it's over with quick.
Thats the first time i heard that....and i agree with you that is REALLY unfair. I think the disciplining is supposed to depend on how obediant the kid is not how old he is!
I also want to mention to all the people who think spanking is so bad....R U SERIOUS??? I mean C'MON!! There is NOTHING wrong with giving your kids a good spanking every now and then!
:-) I agree with that Bonzai Betty..(u got a thumbs up from me!)
It's not unfair sometimes, that is always unfair.
It is not okay to spank a teenager.
It is also not okay for you and your brother to
have different forms of punishment just because you are
a girl.
I have never heard that its ok to spank a teenage female but not a teenage male...sounds a little strange to me...and by that age you shouldn't be getting spanked. You really should talk to your parents that doesn't sound right to me.
I have a teenage daughter who is fully as tall as I am and probably is also physically stronger because she's young and I'm not. If I tried that with her, she could probably flatten me if she wanted to.
Um...no offense but your mother seems very sexist and close minded. She needs to come up with a better way of dealing with you besides hitting you. At 16, common sense should tell your mother not to hit you.
You have been too old to be spanked for 16 years. Fortunately, it won't be long before you can get out on your own.
You shouldn't be getting spanked at your age, but your mom is right about one thing. Teenage guys do just laugh it off.
Parents should not be spanking anyone, male or female at 16. Your parents need to learn some parenting skills.
i think 16 is to old to get spanked girl or guy, there are other ways of punishment
Spanking a 16-year-old is just sick! It's abuse!
Says who. Ur mum!
you should call CPS
girls dont grow for a while so they are still little
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