Oh, I know exactly how you feel. My little brother was born when I was 11 years old. I always held him (my mom felt like she never got to hold her own baby) and everyone thought he was mine! I got so many strange looks.
Now, I have a daughter, 3 months old. My step-daughter is 14 years old. We were at a restaurant and I went to the bathroom. A man looked down at my daughter's carseat and smiled at her. Then he looked up and saw my stepdaughter and the smile fell off his face, like she had done something wrong. She was so mad. I don't blame her. Even if it were her baby, people shouldn't be judging.
So, to answer the question. I always think that she's the baby's sibling until I know otherwise. What would be your first reaction if you saw a teenage girl holding a newborn baby?
If it was just you shopping with the baby (pushing a cart, no one else around) I would unfortunately assume that the baby was probably yours.
Just because it would look like you're the primary caregiver since you're grocery shopping. I wouldn't think negatively though, just, wow, she's got a lot on her plate.
If you were just walking around holding the baby I wouldn't make any assumptions, and if I did it would be that you were the sister or babysitter. Same to be said if you were pushing a stroller not in a grocery store.
I would not assume anything. I have two teenagers and a toddler and ever since the third child was born, people have thought that one or both of the older siblings was her parent whenever they're seen in pubilc with her. For a long time they refused to carry her, push the stroller, or anything in public, especially where they might encounter friends from school. It's better now, because she can talk and calls them by their first names. But ever since I had my last one, I'm very sensitive to how I perceive or what assumptions I make about other people and the children they're with. Plus, my husband is 56 and looks it, so people always assume he's our baby's GRANDfather. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt and to take people as they are.
My younger sister is 15 and is always toting around my 9.5 month old whenever we go out together. She loves her nephew more than anything and loves caring him around and pushing his stroller. Sometimes ppl will ask her if he is her baby and she always says, 'No way, he's my nephew!' The most ppl reply, 'Well thats good because you look too young to have a baby!' But don't worry about it, ppl will think what they want but who cares?! They don't know you and you don't know them so it shouldn't matter!
My first reaction would be to never assume anything. Could be hers, maybe so, maybe not. Either way, it's none of my business and it's not my place to judge, regardless whether I know them or not.
I would think it was either baby sitter or older sister. Now then if she was talking to the baby and saying things like ';mommy loves you'; and playing peek-a-boo saying ';where's mommy'; I would raise an eyebrow.
I would think that they were baby-sitting. Even though I am 17 and pregnant I would still think that they were baby-sitting. Don't worry!
i would think ur his older sister.. or if not i'll be pleased that ur taking responsibility of ur actions haha
I would also probably think it was your sibling.
i'd probably not think anything. maybe that the baby is cute and about how blessed you were no matter what relation.
An older sister is what I would think right away.
If I saw a teenager pregnant, I would think...That would be tough
I always think she is the baby's sister.
I would think it is your baby and feel sorry for you .
I used to do this with my nephew when I was 14. People are going to assume, BUT who cares what they think, right?
I would think it's your sibling.
im 13 and would think your looking after sum1s kids or ur lil brother or something,
wow she is young to have a baby
ohhh....how cute.
uh what gives you the idea that what people think has anything to do with you?
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